At times You might get upleasant words from people which might upset you or make you angry, offenses are inevitable
Your tone of response to such provoking or upsetting statements matters a lot. As Christians It is expected of believers to show Godly examples to everyone around them, Replying an unpleasant statement with harsh words will only escalate issues, This is where "Soft answer" come in.
Let's take a look at the scriptures Below
Proverbs 15:1,2,4
[1]A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.
[2]The tongue of the wise useth knowledge aright: but the mouth of fools poureth out foolishness.
[4]A wholesome tongue is a tree of life: but perverseness therein is a breach in the spirit.
A soft answer turneth away wrath,.... Mild words, gentle expressions, delivered with kindness and tenderness, humility and submission; these will work upon a man's passions, weaken his resentments, and break and scatter the storm of wrath raised in his breast, just breaking forth in a very boisterous and blustering manner; so high winds are sometimes laid by soft showers. Thus the Ephraimites were pacified by Gideon's mild answer; and David by Abigail's very submissive and respectful address, Judges 8:1;
but grievous words stir up anger; such as are rough and menacing, scornful and sneering, reproachful and reviling, proud, haughty, and overbearing;
The tongue of the wise useth knowledge aright,.... As the heart of a wise and good man is filled with useful knowledge, civil, moral, spiritual, and evangelical; so he takes care to communicate it, at proper times and seasons, in proper places, and to proper persons; adapting it to their case and circumstances, so as it may be for their comfort, edification, and instruction,
but the mouth of fools poureth out foolishness; their knowledge, as they take it to be, but it is no other than folly; this they throw out in great plenty, in a hurry, without fear or wit;
A wholesome tongue is a tree of life,.... A tongue that delivers out salutary instructions, wholesome advice and counsel; a "healing tongue" which pacifies contending parties, and heals the divisions between them; to have the benefit of such a man's company and conversation is like being in paradise. Such is the tongue of a Gospel minister, which delivers out the wholesome words of our Lord Jesus Christ; sound speech and doctrines, which cannot be condemned; healing truths to wounded consciences, such as peace, pardon, righteousness, and atonement by the blood of Christ. These are the means of quickening dead sinners, reviving and comforting distressed ones, and show the way of eternal life unto them;
but perverseness therein is a breach in the spirit; impure, unchaste, unsavoury, and corrupt language, does mischief to the spirits of men; evil communications corrupt the heart and manners, defile the soul and the conversation; these and unsound doctrines eat as a canker; and as they make the heart of God's people sad, whom he would not have made sad; so they bring distress and despair into the spirits of others, and make sad wounds and breaches there, which are never healed, and that both in the spirits of speakers and hearers; for damnable heresies bring swift destruction on the propagators of them, and them that receive them.
Note Below:
Most actions in life are based on statements, (spoken or written), good or bad statements.
Misguided statements do more harm than good. misguided statements has torn apart homes, partnerships, and relationship.
Soft answer never fails, It can touch the mind of even the most angry person,
Think before You speak
Grievous words stir up anger: There are some words you'll say to your loved ones That can get them extremely angry at you, despite the fact that they Love You.
You don't quench Fire with Fire, You quench Fire with water
Learn to use these words frequently
1. I am sorry
2. Thank You
3. Please
A soft answer will save you from so much trouble.
The soft answer of Nabal's wife made David turn away from killing Nabal when Nabal provoked Him
1 Samuel 23-35
(Bible commentary used from Jobn Gill's bible commentary)
God bless You in Jesus' name.
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